“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes” – Mahatma Gandhi
1. The action or process of affirming or being affirmed.
2. A formal declaration by a person who declines to take an oath for reasons of conscience.
There has been much said about positive affirmations and the way they can influence not only how we feel but what we achieve. Some years ago, The Secret was published and it seriously made a mark. Whether a zealous devotee of the idea that the universe delivers according to the thoughts you give out or a skeptic of this school of thought, it seemed everyone had an opinion on the topic and there was more literature on positive affirmations out there than ever. With a few years of hindsight we can see that while some of the claims in the book are unrealistic there is no doubt that replacing negative thoughts with positive ones can only have good results .
But changing your thinking is easier said than done and when you start repeating affirmations to yourself it can feel really, well, silly. So, we thought we’d help you out on your road to happiness with this guide to Mastering the Art of Affirmations…
1. Identify your negative thought patterns
Catch yourself out each time you think something negative and write that thought and the time you thought it down in a notebook. Do this for one week then have a look over it. You’ll notice there are a few thoughts and times that pop up more than once. Take these and write each one down on a seperate piece of paper. These are the thoughts to conquer first.
2. Deconstruct your thoughts
Pick apart each of these thoughts. What are you really saying? What’s your internal tone? Are you thinking negatively about the past, future or present? Is your thought in first person? Does it make assumptions that may be incorrect? Spend some time dissecting this thought and you might be surprised at what you come up with.
3. Re-write it
Do a 360 spin on your thought. Turn a negative into a positive. If you thought, ‘I am always tired’ start thinking ‘I am full of energy’. If you thought ‘I can’t lose weight’ simply remove the ‘t’ and think ‘I can lose weight’.
Tick these boxes with each of your new thoughts:
– Write in the first person (use “I…” ).
– Use present tense.
– Express what will be true, not what won’t (avoid thoughts like ‘I am no longer always tired’)
– Keep it short.
– Make it emotionally meaningful to you. It should “feel” right.
4. Use it
Every single time that negative thought creeps back into your head, stop yourself and replace it with the positive one. At first it may seem silly or uncomfortable but soon enough this process will come naturally and you won’t have to think twice. Then eventually, the negative thought will be permanently replaced by the positive one and you will discover a lighter, happier you.
5. Review it
Our worries, thoughts and goals change over time so your affirmations should too. Take time out each month to repeat this process and wake up to the new negative thoughts that have crept in. After some time, you might notice that there are far fewer negative thoughts on your page, once you’ve weeded out those big nasty thoughts and replaced them with big positive thoughts, the smaller ones find it harder to survive.
Everything flows with ease and grace.
I always have more than enough time.
I am healthy and happy.
All my needs are met with ease.
I am loved.
I am worthy.
I am grateful for all of my blessings.
I am a money magnet.